I’d like to propose a threesome.

Simply, the process of becoming your unadulterated self, independent of your conditioning given by your parents and society. It is a creative, lived process, which cannot be pinned down to a method or formula.

It is just what happens when the ‘small you’ gets out of the way of the ‘big you’.

I don’t do this for you. What I can do is point to the places where you are giving too much credence to old stories and old habits, and encourage you to move beyond them.

This is a much bigger thing than a sixty-minute session. It has to infiltrate all areas of your life; otherwise, it is just another experience to add to the list. The focus will be what happens between the sessions.

Being ‘wounded’ often becomes mixed in with our identity. It serves a purpose—to make sure we have somewhere to point to justify our limitations.

The alternative—actually living your life—can be much scarier. Thus we unconsciously choose never to heal, so we never have to face that fear.

Healing and integration never end. This is not about pretending to be in some final enlightened state.

It is about opening to the possibility of the healed self and what that could look like. And then giving ourselves permission to be that, not in some future healed state, but now.

That opens the door. When you walk through it, we have patience for.

Until it feels complete for you. Maybe that will mean one session, maybe twenty.

Even this exploration, in the end, becomes unnecessary.

I do not treat mental illness. Please seek treatment from a qualified professional. Depending on the circumstances, this work can complement other treatments, but it is best to discuss that with your current provider first.

Let’s be real—there is no qualification for this. It is, by definition, beyond traditional learning, and ultimately beyond human understanding.

I consider my only qualification to be my own process of individuation that continues to this day.

I also have a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors, for the record.

Depends what you mean by religious. I subscribe to no particular religion and have no religious agenda to push. But the fact remains that if we go deeply enough into ourselves, we start to see that there is something greater going on here. Whether you call that religious, spiritual or something else is unimportant.